Why is it that so many of us are fearful of change, of making our life feel different, better, easier, happier, we all know that there are logical steps to changing but the emotions of staying the same are like an anchor that keep us stuck.
Biologically, neuroscience holds the key to this, it is simple, your brain is a pattern matching organ, that creates and works with habit and repetition.
To change requires us to work against ourselves, to put ourself in conflict with ourself!! Therein lies the first step to the challenge of change, we need to create a new thought process and habit in order to allow the change to become a new normal! Our programming needs updating, if we were a phone our software needs an upgrade!
To change asks us to step out of our comfort zone into that place of unknowns, and uncertainty, it requires us to feel ‘fear’ and not to get stuck in worry, overthinking and the ‘what if’s’ then we have to keep on feeling this discomfort, until the new way of being becomes our new normal and a new habit is created. I know for me and those that I work with that sounds simple in theory, the practise is exactly that, to keep practising the new, to keep feeling the fear, to keep taking steps into the unknown and walking through the fear into NEW.
Ask yourself;
What small change would make a difference in my life?
it might be as simple as getting up a little earlier to have time for you, or going to bed earlier, it might be parking the car further away and walking more it could be swapping that glass of wine for a spritzer or just learning to say NO, asking your kids to do more to support you! Take a moment and this about what would support YOU.
How can you plan to implement this change?
what do you need to do to make it happen, is it write a reminder, tell someone, put a post it note somewhere to remind you..think about what would support you to make the change.
When it feels uncomfortable or you find an excuse what can you tell yourself?
I’ve got this! This is for me! This will make a big difference, keep going! Why not now! If nothing changes, nothing changes. Find a phrase, song or quote that supports you!
It takes us to feel the fear and keep going, using courage to keep moving through the discomfort, too often the minute we feel uncomfortable we will distract or just choose to stay stuck!
The quality of your life depends upon how courageous you choose to be!
When you keep walking through the fear, the discomfort, you are creating a new way of being, you are updating yourself, you are choosing to become more you and less the way of your habits, your inherited ways of being.
CHOOSE COURAGE TO BECOME MORE YOU
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