Recognise ….

Your expectations, hurt you, so many of us ‘expect‘ life to be a certain way, we have plans of how it ‘should’ be of what we want to happen, of how we expect people to behave, to treat us. It is these expectations that cause the damage, that create unrealistic ideals of life, friendships, family, relationships and goals, we set ourselves up to be let down, hurt, sad and understandably to not appreciate all that we do have, because it is not what we expected!

Many of the times that I have felt hurt in life, I have hurt myself by believing that people would do for me as I would them, but a part of me knew that was a distortion, as if they had not done it before why would they start now! It is for us to acknowledge, our distortions, our fantasies and where they set us up to let us down.

When people behave a certain way, it is not personal to us, even though it might be happening to you acted out on you, it is personal to them, it shows you who they are not who you are. You have choices to acknowledge that they are acting a certain way and either accepting it or not – when you take it personally YOU let it hurt YOU!

Letting go of what we believe ‘should’ happen and actually acknowledging what is happening, is how we find the truth within ourselves, our relationships and how we come to be more present, more authentic within ourselves.

Acceptance of those we care for, love and want in our lives, starts with accepting more of ourselves… acknowledging our patterns of behaviour, our distortions, our expectations and really understanding if they serve us to be happy or hurt us and keep us stuck in pain.

We always have choices, we always have the option to choose to grow and learn, to heal or to be a victim, to others, to circumstances and to life.

I invite you to take a few moments and reflect on;

Where in my life do I have unrealistic expectations?

Which relationships can help me let go of old wounds and heal?

What are my expectations for me?

What can I learn from my expectations?